When I think back to why my other two children have so many health issues currently, I realize a lot of it was a series of small mistakes I made from the time they were born. I was young, nieve and I trusted my pediatrician like many parents do, I never asked questions even if my mom’s gut told me something didn’t seem right. I was forced to open my eyes to things when my younger son became extremely sick and in the hospital at the age of five years old. I started to look back at old medical records from their deliveries and piece together red flags that I had missed back then.
Fast forward seven years and I received a very special surprise and that was I was expecting my third child! I was determined this time to not make the same mistakes I made with my last two pregnancies and deliveries and to have a more natural or gentle cesarean and have a clear cut birth plan in place on paper so my wishes were met. My first two children were emergency c-sections and not the best experience and I didn’t know what I know now. As I researched I had no clue having a gentle cesarean was even an option it’s something many doctors don’t broadcast along with options to what your baby receives after they are born. Having been through it myself, I know how difficult it is, and I wanted to find ways to help other women have a more gentle time (and an easier recovery) by sharing my birth plan for a gentle cesarean below.
My Birth Plan
- Mom should request an epidural or spinal block; general anesthesia should be avoided at all costs, barring any emergencies
- Mom should request that anesthesiologists do not automatically give her extra drugs to relax so that she can be fully present for the experience
- If mom cannot be conscious, father should be allowed to hold baby skin-to-skin immediately after birth, barring any medical complications with baby
- If mama has EKG or baby monitoring devices, they can be placed in areas that don’t infringe her ability to see, hold or breastfeed the baby.
- Mom wishes to watch baby lifted from her belly through a clear drape
- Mom’s gown can be lowered and baby can be placed on the chest while mom is being sutured. To facilitate this, mom asks that her arms are not strapped down
- Baby can breastfeed immediately while in the operating room
- Parents can request cord clamp/cut delay until it stops pulsing-Usually 2 minutes
- vaginal swab to give your baby the best microbiome possible.
- Baby to be held by mom while wheeled into recovery, and continue to bond with parents there
- Any and all usual post-birth procedures such as cleaning the baby and weighing the baby are delayed until parents are ready
After Baby is Born
- Mom would like to not have baby washed for 48 hours after birth to allow vernix to soak into the baby. Baby first bath will be with products parents provide.
- Parents do not want any eye ointment placed on the baby.
- All test and procedure are to be done in the room only after parents have given permission and are present.
- Vitamin K and Hep-B shots will not be administered. Mother was not Hep-B positive.
- Our baby will stay in our room with us at night. Please do her nursing assessment in our room.
- Please give me a copy of results of baby’s hearing screen, blood work, and any other tests/studies.
- No formula is to be given to baby without mothers authorization.
This is just an example of my birth plan and how I plan to do things differently, I urge you to research and make a birth plan that fits your family best. Even if you end up having to have a cesarean you have options to make it a more peaceful atmosphere for you and your baby.